Nowhere in this brave new world is the distinction between man and woman cast in such stark relief as online dating. The binary difference between men and women’s online dating experience is at the core of this book. Most single people over 30 now meet almost exclusively this way. This was the forum that convinced me, a long time ago, that men were not the gentlemen of yore. Online dating is perhaps the primary example of men behaving in ways unrecognizable to earlier generations. Digital dating has rendered the old school analog dating process inexplicably archaic. That quaint era of mating involved talking, courting, like that.